JENNIFER | JULY 24, 2014 2:54PM JST
CHIBA, JAPAN. For years, I have heard of men talking about how women look better when they have no make up and that personality is key. However, when frequenting some clubs, lounges and restaurants, most of the women out with their partners wear make-up. Is it something that men prefer after they get involved in a relationship or do women believe that make up will change their lives or make them prettier than before?
From past experience, I have had the chance of dating men who always thought that make-up was unnecessary. Yet, whenever we would go out to some special places, they loved it when I wore some make-up. There are occasions when I love wearing a little, if that.
What changes a man’s perspective about women on date night? Could it be that many women go out with their friends or hubbies (husbands) and the men want their significant others to look just as good or better then other women they see? It could be that the phrase ‘special date’ is equivalent to ‘women wearing make-up.’ One person I dated was very open to expressing his feelings about women wearing make-up.
Milo
Let’s say his name is Milo. He is a very simple guy, who enjoys life in many forms. Whenever we spent time together, Milo cared less about how I looked and always made fun of me if I looked like crap. However, he was attracted to my fun, high-spirited personality and everything else was a blur. Milo never let a day go by without showing me that he adored me in some fashion. We felt so comfortable around each other that when I didn’t wear make up, he did not even notice. When I did and we cruised the streets to go to some fancy places, he saw right past it.
He felt comfortable enough to tell me about women he had dated who went beyond wearing make-up, but that seems to be the only thing he saw in some of them. As Milo spoke, he seemed embarrassed to share his experiences, but I listened.
In our case, if he spent the night and saw me the next day with mascara running down my face, breath killing his nostrils and eye boogers dried up on my eyes, Milo would just laugh and begin our day with a different agenda.
Make-up did not and does not define a woman. A personality does.
Jack
Let me give you an example of a friend of mine. I will name him Jack. He does not care about the make up so much. However, it seems that women who wear make-up on a regular basis are those that appeal to him the most. The issue with that is that he tends to meet those women who do not share the same personality he has. Jack gets locked into their style, their supermodel made up faces and bodacious bodies, then wonders why those women have what he calls “no personalities.” I have no response to that because I am not a specialist in that area and I do not know the women he has met.
I would probably say that accepting people for who they are and seeing through them regardless of the make-up, is the key to choosing a mate that is in line with one’s character. Being hypnotized is wonderful, but being enthralled in their personalities is more important than what they have on their face. Make-up is beautiful and that is usually all it is.
At times, we feel that the better someone looks, the more we will love them. Make-up on someone may make her look great, but personality has no make-up, it stays.